Meet Our December Woman Crush: Michal Lehman

I first came across Michal’s platform during the pandemic because the Instagram algorithm displayed a reel of hers on my Explorer Page. In the reel she was open and honest about her single life and shared words of encouragement that made me really enjoy her vibe. I soon got lost down the rabbit whole and found out that she had a blog for single women too that offered great advice on how to deal with loneliness and how to have an overall great single life. I am honored to be featuring her this month as our woman crush and hope her story brings you comfort and encourage during your singleness journey.

Tell us About Yourself!

I was born and raised in Israel to British parents, I studied creative writing and literature, I’m currently working as a localisation specialist, and have my side hustle (that I’m working on turning into my business and career) as a content creator and blogger. I love travelling, listening to music, walking, reading, writing, drawing, puzzling and cooking (and most things creative).

What do you feel your singleness journey has taught you?

I learned that I need to source my happiness and strength from within, that I’m whole and complete on my own, and that anyone else is just an added bonus. I learned that I am so much stronger and more capable than I ever knew. I also learned that life has so much more to offer than just marriage and kids, and that I need to take advantage of where I am in life now, and not cry over where I am not, or what I don’t have.

What do you think is a common misconception about being single?

That singleness is synonymous with loneliness, and that being single is sad, pathetic and lonely. Also, that you can’t be truly happy when you’re single and alone, and you have to have a relationship to be truly happy. People automatically tend to feel sorry for you, or pity you because you’re single, and think it’s lesser than being in a relationship.

What inspired you to start your blog?

I was inspired by my own life experiences as a single woman, and the need to help others who are also struggling to embrace themselves and their singleness. I had to fight to be a strong, confident and independent single woman, and I wanted to help others do the same. I also found a lack of single empowerment bloggers, or blogs dedicated to learning how to live your best single life and take advantage of it. Most bloggers and coaches were for dating advice and how to find someone. I also wanted to break stigmas, misconceptions and the pressure from society. 

How do you practice self - love?

I practice self-love by being nice, kind and patient with myself, and by taking care of myself every single day – pampering myself, and treating myself to nice things, but also by living a healthy lifestyle and taking care of my personal hygiene. I also make sure to prioritise myself and not constantly put others needs before my own, and I don’t compromise on my principles and values. I also make sure to talk to myself kindly.

How do you deal with loneliness?

I believe loneliness is all about connections – with myself and with people around me, so I try to build a strong support system by constantly maintaining and developing my platonic relationships – with family and friends. They are who I turn to when I feel lonely. I also fill my time and life with things that bring me joy and help me enjoy my own company and presence. Like my hobbies, going out for walks with my dog, learning a language and new skills, going on adventures, etc.

What words of wisdom do You wish to share with other single women?

Your single life is what you make of it, what and where you choose to focus on, is exactly where it will go and what it will be. Crying or wallowing over it, won’t change your status or help you find the right person for you, it will only make it worse, so instead, make the most of your singlehood, and take advantage of all the benefits and perks, all of the opportunities it presents, ones you wouldn’t have had if you weren’t single.