Meet Our May Woman Crush: Kim Williams of Single Black Motherhood
I was first introduced to the Single Black Motherhood platform via an Instagram post—that shared money management tips for single mothers. Although I’m not yet a mother, I wanted to learn more about how to better my finances and was interested to hear more. After saving the post, I went down a rabbit hole and explored the IG page and website and eventually came across the About Me section of the brand. I gained a grasp about how the platform was created and learned a bit about it’s creator, Kim Williams. I saw similarities in her story with my mother’s and all I could think about was how much platforms like the Single Black Motherhood were needed—and wished that this was a resource that was available to my mom when she was a single mother too.
My admiration for Kim grew as I learned more about the Summits and Retreats she organizes for single mothers and how they help her build a dependable community where single mothers can foster authentic connections. I am honored to be featuring her this month as our Woman Crush and feel that anyone could benefit from the strategies she shares on her platforms.
Tell us About yourself!
My name is Kim. I get the privilege to raise a child that looks up to me for guidance and cultivate experiences that foster connection to strengthen our relationship. I am a leader both at work as a Medical Staff Manager and outside of work through building community through Single Black Motherhood. I’m very passionate about educating our community and cultivating experiences where we get to learn, grow, and connect which has led me to creating the Single Mom Summit and the Single Moms Retreat! Both are coming up soon and I am so excited!
What inspired you to start your blog and podcast Single Black Motherhood?
I started the blog & podcast because I was looking for community and advice, specifically from a young, single black mom and could not find it. After relocating and moving in with family that did not work out, I found myself in a new city with my then three-year-old, trying to escape the check-to-check cycle, and live a better life. I decided that I would become the young, single black mom I was looking for and share my journey and resources I found along the way through various platforms.
What are the most important lessons you’ve learned as a single mother?
1. I was not designed to raise my child alone and I need help.
2. Budgeting (creating a plan for my money) is essential!
3. It’s hard to change my financial situation if I’m not aware of what’s going in and what’s coming out.
4. Therapy works and helps you rewire your brain!
5. Finding your tribe (women that are going through similar things) is so important for growth on the journey of single motherhood and I wish I found mine sooner.
How do you balance work and life as a single mother?
I do not believe in balance. When I think of balance, I think of a scale with an equal distribution of weight. That’s impossible for me. Life as a single mother ebbs and flows. Some days work gets more time, some days my child gets more time. It really just varies. I believe in work-life integration. How can my work align with the life I’m currently living and desire to live?
Are you currently dating and how do you navigate dating as a single parent?
I am using online dating apps to meet guys. I make time to talk, go out, and meet them just like I make time for everything else - when I feel that the guys are worth the time and effort. I utilize a drop-off daycare or go out during the day. Sometimes, scheduling can be a challenge since I don’t have family or community nearby - living in a mountain town. I enjoy the conversations, hearing guys share their stories, and learning more about myself to understand what I desire in my future purpose partner.
How do you invest in yourself as a single mother and practice self-love?
I believe self-love is the foundation for self-care. I prioritize myself. I speak life into myself. I acknowledge my emotions and give myself lots of grace. I care for my mind, body, and spirit almost daily. I invest in myself through time, money, and energy to make my current and future life better. This looks like exercising with a coach and group, eating better, books, courses, communities, traveling, experiences… The list goes on.
What words of wisdom do you wish to share with other Single Mothers?
1. Make time to do the internal work. If you can’t do it alone, find a therapist. The mindset work is going to be very essential for getting through tough times.
2. Learn how to manage your money. A lot of times we think it’s an income issue, but it’s often a money management issue.
3. Find your tribe (community of single mothers). There are so many benefits in being surrounded by other people that have been where you are or are where you are.
4. Learn the true value of time, set boundaries, and stick to them. That goes for work, children, family, etc.
5. Do not lose your identity to motherhood or think that you have to put all of your goals on hold because you are a single mother. Prioritize yourself! You are STILL CAPABLE of accomplishing many of the things you once desired. Life is not all about the kids, but it’s also about you and your desires.
You don’t have to isolate yourself and do life alone. There is a community that is willing to support you!
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